How To Build A Good Emotional Health

As an adult, where does your EMOTIONAL FULFILLMENT comes from – 

It should come from God!!

As a child, that emotional fulfillment should come from your parents. In the way of parent-child bonding, during this bonding process, there is a hormone that the body releases for both parent and child called Oxytocin which helps in the bonding process. 

Emotional fulfillment is a reflection of your mental and emotional well-being. To be emotionally fulfilled means you have a healthy sense of well-being, you have an increased sense of self-confidence, and healthy stress management. 

Most of us place our emotional fulfillment and happiness in material things, and the opposite is true. We must find emotional satisfaction in immaterial things such as peace of mind, joy, and a stress-free life. But if we place our happiness in material things, then what happens if those things are taken from us? 

God created our Amygdala to house our emotions and emotional behavior. This system in our brain is influenced by our ‘happy chemicals’ such as Oxytocin, Serotonin, Dopamine, and Endorphins. As children, parents are responsible for positively engaging with the child for proper psychological development so the child grows into an adult with a healthy emotional well-being. 

As a therapist, and through my research, my research shows that most adults have had an upbringing in a home where there was emotional detachment between them and their parents. This upbringing often affects the adult with traumatic symptoms such as low self-esteem, lack of interpersonal relationships, co-dependency issues, and separation anxiety. 

When adults seek to work on themselves to heal from emotional trauma, God will have to teach them everything according to how He wants them to live; that will happen only through a relationship with Him. However, as you learn from God, He will teach you certain principles you will have to apply to your life, which will also bring healing to you. During the healing process, you may also have to do self-care work, such as practicing loving others and yourself and overcoming negative self-talk. 

Even as you heal emotionally and mentally, you will still face disappointment from time to time. People you trust may disappoint you, but you have to learn how to recover from those disappointments and not allow them to dictate how you proceed throughout life. Also, it is best to immediately talk to God about the immediate hurt you have experienced and not let your mind dwell on it too much (because the enemy may use that pain and turn it into unforgiveness) 

Every experience we go through (especially the bad ones) are teaching moment and a time to learn. Sometimes, God may be speaking to us from that experience or trying to teach us something.